...It's a chat room, not a court room...

Thank you for your clarification. Personalities are different, and those who want to make you to conform to THEIR mainstream usual need this to make their little self esteem grow. (Well this and the following part is off topic.)

I do agree that rules are to be followed, even in an chat room, but control, accusation and condemnation should be based on balanced power and not autocratic power using "alternative facts". This should apply to any so called "democratic" society. EOM for me, so you may have the last word on this issue.