I jumped and screemed at the options and most of you after a day or two and a couple of snaps, told me to stop screeming and accept it, just business. Since I respect you regulars at this forum very highly, I just could not ignore your view, and after a thinking session in my basement till my aquevite ran out, I finally figured it out:

1) I am pretty poor and too practical

2) don't be shy, ask for what you think you are worth multiplied by 10

3) if you have not performed for a couple of years but are getting away with it, ask for more

4) better to p__s of a whole group than a couple of single individuals, since as a group they will get comfort each others and not feel so bad

5) in spite of learning the above, I will continue to be poor and practical