"It hurt when Doni questioned basically why one would be in for that much still."

I'm sorry if I had in any way hurt your feelings, I understand completely. We all have the balancing act to contend with,  some more than others. I'm constantly asking myself the question, after reflecting on my current and past  monthly grind,  ....how the heck are people doing it? ....Is it supposed to be like this?  While others make it look so simple? It never ends...just about the time you feel you're ahead ....

I was not judging you in any way...you seem to be a very smart person. You have a common sense about you,  for that trait,  I feel you are going to prosper well.

My fingers are crossed for your family.

I've not talked to my brother in some time.  I have no idea how Neil is doing...he's in the middle of it all some where over there. At times I think of him when his was just a little boy...while at the same time, wonder what he's doing @ that exact moment of thought. I wish I could turn back the clock.
To be a parent caught up in this added extraneous mess, has got to be the worst when it comes to keeping a mind set and sense of sanity.

Again I'm deeply sorry....good luck to you and yours

doni