Sambone - you said: "Herb IS being judgemental. He wants me to relook at religion and my life so I will have a better life in his opinion, just like him....well excuse me?.....that is just a little presumptious.....who is he to judge that I need fixing?"

Did it occur to you that you are being judgmental to say that Herb is judgmental.  Who are  you to judge what is judgmental and what is not judgmental?  See where I'm going with this?  When something does not 'sit right' with someone, it is easy for them to play the 'judgmental' card.  How about 'caring'?  You could have said that Herb is being too 'caring', by caring about helping someone escape everlasting punishment.  You think Herb is being 'presumptious'.  Are you not also being 'presumptious' to assume that God never gave any man a clue about why he is here, etc.?  Are you not being 'presumptious' in taking a position that there cannot be a God who communicates with man?  I don't believe in alien beings being held captive in Area 51, but I don't condemn people as 'judgmental' and 'presumptious' if they believe that and want to tell others the basis or content of their beliefs.